I would win the argument if you knew I was fighting
Eavesdropping on people arguing is a fun way to think about what I would say. I am SO much smarter when I can stand back and watch other people duke it out. I like to refer to it as my “Jeopardy theory”. At home I pay attention to the areas of my expertise and busy myself with anything else when they move to the subjects in which I am not proficient. According to this Jeopardy graph (I found on slate.com), I have Literature, Before and After, potpourri (WEIRD that this is a category-update:OMG, I was just telling Mike how awesome it is that potpourri is a category and he just explained the meaning, and that it isn’t the fabulous scents I keep in a sachet in my underwear drawer. OOPS), animals, stupid answers and most definitely Islands in my wheelhouse.
What are your areas?
The reason I bring this up is because I have noticed a great deal of people trying to argue about areas they know nothing about. Social media tends to make an ass out of our best intentions. Trust me, I would love to tout opera, politics, and business as my areas of expertise but they just aren’t. When people discuss them I eavesdrop and try to learn as much as I can by both sides of the conversation. This is one of the few times I think snooping is a great idea and could be beneficial! Actually, can I just be so blunt as to encourage it?
My blog idea comes from the non-eavesdropping, I know everything, internet banterers. I can’t figure out if these gem-people are just trolling or if they actually think their uneducated opinion will be well received.
When I was younger I planned to be an attorney. I loved to debate and have always been strong-willed. After working at a law firm I realized I couldn’t Elle Woods it and decided my talents lied elsewhere. During my time as a student pursuing the law I picked up a few tools but being a friend and decent person has equipped me with the most useful tools.
The most important tool I have learned is common sense. If it is impossible for you to walk in someone’s shoes, you should never tell them how to feel. Unless your advice is positive and, well, awesome. If you are a man do not tell a woman how she should think. If you are not disabled, do not give advice on how to live as a disabled person. Do not tell a person of another race your enlightened opinion on their race. If you are not homosexual your thoughts on gay marriage is irrelevant.
The only acceptable opinion to give to an individual whose identity you are unable to replicate is praise or empathy. That’s it.
The next time you feel compelled to jump in and tell everyone your opinion on areas you don’t have experience, try eavesdropping. See if you learn anything. More important, see if your thought process changes by listening to others rather than telling everyone else yours.
Just my thought 🙂
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